Lets Build Homes! Not Houses.

Being human means we all have some fundamental needs in common and one of them is shelter. We all need to survive however survival is not the only desire we all hold in our hearts. 

We want to feel protected and secure with our loved ones and a sense of belonging with our family. Hence, family is the bonding and togetherness of each person attached to it. Home and family are the two concepts related to each other like heart and soul. 

Usually, majority of us don't realize the value and importance of our home. Most of us remain engaged in building houses and decorating it and sometimes spend whole life doing this without realizing that it will eventually end them into loneliness. Therefore, we should not ignore the affection and connection with family unit. 

Constructing house is also a common desire of people and we want to live comfortably and well protected inside our house. However, it should never be at the cost of our family and relationships. So lets join our hands together for building our precious homes instead of constructing and decorating houses. Although no harm in decorating our family home according to our requirements but priority should be remaining in connection and closeness with family and friends. 

Each family has its own different style of living depending upon their earnings and expenditures and they prefer to maintain their living standard accordingly. Managing a cozy and comfortable living style has always been an innate desire of each one of us because we all feel like having a place where we could feel the comfort after spending long hours of work outside whole day. 

Due to our busy life schedules of every day we all feel that although we are living under one roof as a family but we are disconnected with each other. Parents usually remain unaware about their children whereabouts. Similarly, children also miss their parents presence in homes at the time they are at home and also miss the opportunity of spending time together with their parents. 

We do have time for sending text messages, spending time on internet and outside with our friends but we usually forget that eating the last meal of the day with parents and grand parents holds immense value in itself. Presence of parents at their children special events, wishing them success in their each small step in school and work, providing them an opportunity to share their problems and giving them a fair listening ear, taking care during their illness and health, supporting them in their despair moments can bring powerful change in their developmental years. 

Home is the best available platform for us to share all these joys and sorrows of life and move hand in hand to face challenges together which will ultimately vanish with time. Hence, we all have to put in focused and shared efforts to build this homely atmosphere again in our lives and not merely focus on creating a big house full of luxuries. 

This can eventually turn the table around and enable us to provide a better life to our children and better place for our future generations. This home will have a reciprocal affect on both children and parents and even grand parents who also miss their children in their old age. 

So let's build homes, and not just houses of concrete which cannot provide us air to breathe in and  the freedom of living and sharing. 

Creating a better home can help create better people. 

I Am Happy! Are You?

One of the foremost human need is 'HAPPINESS'. Each one of us believes in this and our pursuit for this feeling is unending throughout our life time. 

Happiness, contentment, pleasure and exhilaration are relative terms for us because each one of us have different perceptions about feeling of being happy in life. 

Most of the people consider that happiness in life is associated with luxurious life style, prestigious car, beautiful wife or wealthy husband, having children and great family etc. But we need to reflect more closely upon few questions about this feeling of happiness. Does a comfortable bed can get me good sleep? Can a prestigious car earn me respect? Can a beautiful woman be honest with me? Can a wealthy man will be sincere to me? Will my wealth get me respectful children? Will I be truly happy with all worldly and material desires being fulfilled? I am sure your answers will be 'NO'. Than what are the right answers to all these questions.

Well! there can't be any formula answers to all these questions, since happiness is a relative term similarly there is no ready made solution to acquire happiness in true sense. Everybody's life situation could be different and varies from time to time. One situation could be happy for one person but it could not be for another. However, there are certainly ways to be happy and content in life. 

True happiness is although hidden inside our hearts but its quite evident from our personality, our expressions, smiles, verbal and non verbal language. Hence, happiness will never remain hidden rather it is revealed instantly by us. 

Lets discuss how true happiness can be acquired? Contentment and happiness in our heart can be attained by being compassionate, kind, helpful, by forgiving, by forgetting others mistakes, by sharing grief and pain of others, by smiling at others even if we don't know them, by giving hope to hopeless, by being loving, caring and friendly. By being thankful for what you have with you, avoid being greedy. 

All of these are sources of happiness of your heart. You will feel lighter, satisfied and relaxed by developing this wonderful attitude towards all those around you. Your small smile might make someone forget his or her pain for a while, so keep sharing smiles. 

Understand and realize the difference between material happiness and true happiness of your heart. It means a lot more and creates far greater difference in the lives of others. 

I am happy! I am content and satisfied and consider myself as blessed. I pray same for you indeed. 

A New Beginning!

Although writing after sometime but the new learning and experience has taken place so I think I needed a break to evolve myself. 

We all have a new beginning during our life time which could enable us to evolve, realize and understand our shortcomings, strengths, capacities, abilities to perform and our emotional understandings about certain forces.

Our past was a time which has enabled us to reach this point in life through twists and turns, ups and downs and thick and thin and turned us into an individual personality we behold today to face life in our present time. 

The present day is the time we all have no matter how short moments of joy, fear, tears, depressions, frustrations, love and trust we enjoy today, but its very much there in our hands. We just have to give it a second thought of realization, reflection and understanding to take the best advantage out of it. 

As far as the future is concerned, it is yet to come hence not in our control hence we can only plan, share and discuss about it but cannot live in it today. 

Each new arriving moment paves way for a new moment, intimating us about the new reality we are living in. These new moments are like new opportunities of caring, sharing, loving, joy and contentment reaching out to us with open hands repeatedly. 

These new moments are new beginnings for us. They keep within themselves our hopes, desires and new wishes to keep us content and motivated to take even a small step each moment, minute, hour and day.

Our new beginning want all us to stand taller during our moments of despair, grief and against our problems. These are there to subjugate us but if we keep this new beginning moments fresh in our minds we never lose hope rather keep striving for a better moments to move into our lives. 

Lets develop and understanding for our new hopes, wishes, desires and above all new line of actions to fulfill our dreams, goals and objectives in life. This line of action is the life line for us because it will determine our road map to follow every day. Keep following your dreams and realize that you have a purpose to lead in life and create a new beginning for yourself each day full of hopes. 

Self Is Your Privilege!

We as human beings are versatile in qualities, perceptions, views, potentials and abilities to perform in our life term. The art of discovering your own self is actually a gift from God. Its matter of believing in your own self and keep moving on with steady pace to overcome all challenges life throws to us from time to time, ultimate success is always waiting at the corner for each one of us. 

None of us is perfect nor we are created for perfection, however we strive for excellence believing that we have the potential and ability to perform with excellence. Unfortunately, understanding our own personality is a missing element among most of us. Most of us focus on others. On the contrary, they need to turn their focus towards their own hidden qualities and potentials. 

Self is our privilege which provides us an insight to learn and understand ourselves which clearly distinguishes humans from other species on earth. However, we keep neglecting our thoughts, perceptions and inner voice of our soul and keep wandering in darkness. 

Self confidence is a quality which makes us able to accomplish every challenge and impediment in life. Self confidences always leads us to the top irrespective of gender, race or ethnic origin. Love yourself, believe in yourself, control your emotions, remain positive in your thought processes, be optimistic towards your challenges and mistakes because they are there to teach us a new lesson every time we experience them. 

Never compare yourself with other human beings because each one of us have their unique identity and individuality too. Plan your goals and ambitions. Prioritize your life objectives to be in a better situation every time. Remain focused on your goals and keep striving to the best of your abilities in life and your dreams will start materializing in front of your eyes. 

Its all a matter of time and hard work with persistence which takes you at the top. Therefore, struggle and hard work always pays each one of us provided its done with good intentions to serve and contribute towards betterment of life. 

Lets consider ourselves as privileged ones who are blessed with self identity and confidence to lead in life and achieve our ambitions ultimately. 

Is Daughter A Better Option?

Parents love their children naturally. Another natural inclination is also evident and prevails in families that mothers love is more inclined towards her son and father for his daughters, perhaps one of the reason could be opposites always attract phenomenon. Whatever the case may be love for children by their parents dominates our society in every society at large irrespective of any geographical and demographic settings. 

However, beneath this natural parental love and affection some of the societal and cultural trends also depict that parents sometimes have prejudiced behaviors and attitudes towards their daughters preferably unlike their sons. For example, parents always prefer to provide better education, better food, better living and comfortable position to their sons and as far as the case of daughters is concerned they compromise on education, food and other amenities of life which are equal right of both genders. 

In addition, parents feel more secure investing their time and money on sons but not on their daughters. The question arises why these prejudiced behaviors are still part of our culture especially in Asian and Muslim cultures? Why parents prefer to invest more on sons than on daughters, no matter how intelligent or smart their daughters could be. These are some of the silent and unknown aspects lying in our society and still prevalent in this technologically advanced era of 21st century. 

Another aspect I would like to highlight is that if a daughter loves to study, conduct her business, or wants to acquire a job of her choice she has to face resistance from her family. Parents never think of investing in their daughter's business instead would feel proud and happy to invest in their sons business, why? This dark side of our society need to be highlighted in our community especially among the educated elite who are still living with their past prejudiced norms and beliefs. 

The only option parents prefer for their daughters is to wed her off without sometimes bothering themselves to realize whether the new in laws family is a suitable match for her or not, is the boy enough educated, does he possess sound moral character towards his own parents and other family members before taking the responsibility of his wife etc.

Life Does Not Mean Fun, Only!

Life is something very valuable for each one of us and we all generally avoid facing death at times especially when we are young, energetic, lively and happy in our life. However, death is a reality present very much there simultaneously. 

Life has many dimensions for us to understand and realize. We remain content and satisfied unless we come across any problem situation or going through a crisis period. Although, these tough times are also part of game of life, they are always present very much there either we accept them wholeheartedly and find appropriate solutions to overcome these problem situations or try to get away from them but time wont stop teaching us our lessons one day or the other. 

Unfortunately, the overall prevalent culture of life today is primarily focused towards entertainment, fun oriented activities, game shows, enjoyment and leading life without any particular purpose. Enjoyment, entertainment and fun do hold their value in life because when we get tired after going through a monotonous life routine we all look for some kind of fun and entertainment which should be affordable for our pockets too. But this is not the true meaning of life my fellow beings.

As far as meaning and purpose of life is concerned its just not confined to entertainment or fun only, its something very important and valuable at the same time. Our time is extremely precious, our abilities, skills, passions, ambitions, our responsibilities towards others like our family, children, parents, friends and towards community are those diversified nature of valuable dimensions which need our attention, time and care.

Serve For Being Enlightened!

One of the greatest innate desire of a human being is to serve, deliver, assist and guide those who don't know or are less able to perform. Hence, if we notice and observe even from early childhood we can clearly see that elder brothers and sisters keep on helping their younger siblings to improve and do good. This gives them a feeling of satisfaction, contentment as well as a motivation to improve their own performance levels. 

When we reach adulthood we feel happy of telling others to improve even in small things in life, at the same time keep asking friends, family members and colleagues to guide us in our tasks plus we also imitate others for improvement too. This is how our mutual learning and serving go hand in hand throughout the journey of our life and its a never ending process too. 

Learning adds value to our life and brings credibility along with us to our profiles. While serving brings to us inner satisfaction and contentment. Providing a helping hand to others, providing opportunities to others to live a better life with confidence, hope and trust enables our soul to live peacefully in this world. Peace of mind and heart is a kind of feeling which is not only precious but immortal. 

Providing solutions to juniors at workplaces, guidance to our followers as leaders of today and tomorrow are some of the golden traits of human kind which distinguishes humanity from all other creations as the best of all. However, animals and other living creatures also possess kindness towards others and look for love and affection too like us. But the best role modeling examples are always seen among humans like Mother Teresa, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and a long list of many such role models who have sacrificed their whole lives for the betterment of humanity through their consistent serving nature for their fellow beings.