Do You Understand Me?

We as human beings always yearn for being acknowledged, appreciated, encouraged and above all look for somebody who can understand us since our childhood.

This is the reason a baby keeps himself/herself engaged with his/her parents especially mother to energize and satisfy this innate urge. Later on, as we progress in age this urge escalates. Irrespective of gender this desire keeps on touching our mind and heart all the time that this world lacks with those who finally perceive us the way we are.

Children, being the most susceptible creatures always look forward towards their parents for being understood and consequently need to communicate their emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual desires consistently. Leading them to engage friends who are usually their peers, cousins, or sometimes even elders in their family whom they could depend upon to share their feelings.

Experience and research suggests that this yearning reaches its pinnacle in the mid life when both men and woman look for partners who are similar in mindsets, professions, beliefs and values. Inner happiness and contentment rely on this partnership and keep us moving in life with energy and motivational force.

Students in their teen age, adolescence, and twenties always keep changing friendships just to satisfy their need of truthful and trustworthy friendships in order to share their feelings, this desire has been put up essentially through our social media, cell phone usage and internet and practically solving the issue. However, the consequences are disastrous or fatal usually.

We as parents of digital age have to make provisions in our homes to keep the communication channel always open for our kids, we need to become their friends once they are reaching teens or adolescent age in order to provide them satisfactory answers to their problems and issues arising in their innocent minds from time to time.

 Instead of creating barriers for them which sometimes lead to psychological disorders we must remain in touch with their surrounding environment and provide them equal opportunities to share and express. However, a controlled guidance is necessary always by keeping a close eye on them and communicating that how much concerned we are as parents and as their close friends.

Parents fighting loudly in front of kids, shows them how marriage leads to disaster finally and when they reach at their marital time will definitely avoid it and prefer to remain single. Actually, in life we all need to make certain types of commitment with each other to bear difference of opinions, view points and accept our mistakes with open heart. Involve children in domestic decision making to build their self confidence. Control our feelings where its necessary and express where its vital.

Certainly, these are normal social issues and irrespective of age, gender, caste and any ethnic differences we are all in same boat as far as our social issues are concerned.

Why not keep communicating our thoughts with good intentions of motivating those who need our support, kindness, courage and integrity to move on in life successfully.

Intellectual Persecution or What?

Persecution and exploitation seems negative words in our dictionaries but most of us remain really unaware of it however facing it in our everyday life chores.

Majeed being a talented young professional completed his masters from a well reputed university and scored high grades too. He seems ambitious about fulfillment of his goals in life and therefore started looking for a decent opportunity to prove himself. After a struggle of few months he finally got shortlisted and offered an opportunity but not according to his qualification and skills. He felt disheartened but due to insecure financial position accepted the offer and joined the organization. Everyday he reluctantly left for his workplace and came back home walking heavily without any happiness in his eyes and smile on his face.

One night while he was sleepless he asked this question to himself Am I being exploited intellectually? The answer he received from his heart was surprisingly in positive. He remained in shock for sometime but was unable to figure out what to do? He thought of looking for some online opportunity to earn something reasonable as told by some of his friends who were already earning. Majeed possessing reasonable level of writing skills as he use to write for his college magazine therefore he got selected for an online content writing assignment on contract basis. He was happy now that at least through this his writing capacity will not only improve at the same time he will earn something extra in his free time.

He started working on the assignment which was mailed to him. The assignment was not directly related to his field of study but somehow he thought that he can manage after doing considerable research on internet. He started off very enthusiastically and kept on mailing his tasks as they get done before deadline and he was rather doing extra work with the feeling of earning extra bonus too. After doing whole one month hard work he mailed the employer for his pay cheque. In response to his mail he received no reply he was astonished and sent another mail but no reply from his employer again. He called him but the phone was off. Now, he started smelling something fishy fishy and called his friend and told him his story. Surprisingly, his friend facing the same situation as well and both the friends were heart broken as their effort and time went down the drain probably.

Majeed got annoyed and tried to probe into the matter to find out the real story behind the scene. Unfortunately, the employer was stationed somewhere far away therefore it was difficult for him to go there too.

The same question again came to his mind and this time a more convincing feeling came to his mind. What was the feeling or thought he had? Yes, this is intellectual persecution, leading to emotional, spiritual, physical, moral all types of exploitation. This persecution boosts our emotional stress level leading to frustration and desperation.

Undoubtedly, we are living in technological age with immense facilities of information and knowledge lying around us keeping us aware about our surroundings but the issue lies in the usage of these contemporary resources these days.

 However, people have become mind smart and educated but primarily look for short cut methods of success. They consider possession of money and material things as success, the only purpose of life. Which is certainly not true at all. There are many rich people who are very unhappy in life and look for care, attention, love and time even for themselves which they are unable to acquire even spending millions. They simply have no idea what is true happiness in life, where it lies and how it can be acquired etc.

Exploiting human intellect, emotions, morals and any kind of persecution is certainly a crime of digital age. Real contentment of heart lies in moving in life with patience, consistency in effort but with good intention every time, avoid using short cut methods to gain success, serve more and keep our desires to just fulfilling our needs all the rest belongs to others who are far more deserving than us.

Forget and forgive quickly and than you will feel the difference in your life. Be happy in what you have but do  follow your goals and ambitions as one day if you remain persistent you will achieve them as no effort ever goes waste and this is my personal experience.

Hard work always pays indeed, so keep striving for better and keep achieving.

Why Researching?

Asking question is one of the most exceptional quality of human mind, provoking every sensitive brain and body to contemplate in some way or the other concluding them towards the best decisions in life.

A small kid of few years old begins asking questions every second to satisfy his/her desires and instincts. As we proceed in age and mind maturity it leads to more specific, focused and credible questions arising all the time in our minds. This simply leads us to Who? What? When? Where? Which? How? etc. Unless these arousing queries remain unanswered we remain restless and disturbed to reach to conclusion or what exactly is the reality.

Conducting research is therefore one of the most ingrained quality of human being. We all keep on conducting informal research throughout each day, week, month and years of our life. We come across each moment of our life new experiences which open up new dimensions of research for us, consequently leading us towards new questions all the time as a natural process of human mind.

Area of concern lies here is why informal research only? Why not a more formalized research, using professional and dynamic ways to satisfy our queries and concerns in life and reach to practical and realistic findings.

Research is one of the most leading methods of studying academic and non academic issues in this world and provides a logical and three dimensional views to each stakeholder. Researchers all over the world use diversified methods to conclude their findings and on the basis of those findings develop new systems, techniques, resources and create new avenues for further growth of human resource. Subsequently, capacity building of human resource, providing creative opportunities to required individuals as well as professionals.

However, research is a time consuming, pain taking task but even then research being the most inherent capability of human being yet researches keep on going all over the world since the creation of human being.

Lets begin our research from our home first the most close to all of us and try to find solutions to our family issues, leading to outside world which is full of knowledge, information, creativity, innovation and much more than our small mind could think of.

Your research will be more powerful the more you believe in its truth. I personally believe the reality is what you believe in. Hope you agree with me.

Get ready now and go ahead to find the answers of whatever is in your mind, which is bothering you fellows.
RESEARCH IS YOUR ANSWER..............

Talent Contrivance

Our beautiful world is full of talent, creativity, and ideas. We all as diversified individuals are created to be different from each other in number of ways. This reality is widely acceptable by each nation, community, society and person.

Human mind possess unlimited capacity to think and formulate ideas through innovation and experience. These ideas are organized systematically to create something new.

Unfortunately, human talent usually remain untapped due to many factors. Either due to beauracratic mindset who believe in exploitation only, or other environmental factors like lack of resources, inappropriate education and training opportunities, lack of direction among youth, unsupervised parental guidance at the time of career choice, unemployment and many other such factors lead to talent deviation and wastage.

Decision makers among us need to get ourselves focused to not only tapping the required talent among youth and individuals at early age at the same time have to provide opportunities to perform accordingly. Creation of networking platforms, counseling forums, seminars and conventions to address our talented potential is the need of the hour.

Schools, colleges and universities are the major role players in developing such talent hunting programs. Experienced leaders from different professional backgrounds can be extremely useful role models to be utilized for this purpose.

Contrivance of talent can not only help employer to find appropriate employees for their organizations but at the same time our youth will be able to identify which types of talents they need to strengthen and work upon through practice.

Skill and talent go hand in hand therefore living and surviving in 21st century is extremely challenging for each one of us, but keep that in mind that each one of us definitely possess talents and skills. Its just a matter of identifying our talents and working hard on them to bring out our creativity and prove our worth to our society at large.

Your talent is your power in your hand, so just ponder little more to find out what you have inside your beautiful life. I AM VERY TALENTED.......

Teacher What a Person?

Teachers are different beings possessing innate capacity to turn an ordinary child into an extra ordinary personality. 

My teacher asked me to come and see me after my class in her staff room situated at the corner of our long veranda of school campus. 

I was little upset about the mistake I did in my test and therefore my legs were trembling with a hidden fear. No answer was coming to my mind, couldn't think of any solution to my problem. 

The school bell was like a signal to me that now the time is up, and I must now go and face the music. I packed my bag, started eating my lunch quickly so I could run towards the staff room. This was my break time and all my peers were enjoying the break time, playing in the school playground, a long queue was awaiting for their turn in front of school canteen which I was looking with desperation. 

I was walking heavily towards the staff room, finally reaching at the door and asked in fearful voice, 'may I come in madam', a very sweet voice came from inside, yes dear, please do come in and sit down beside me. How are you dear son? You are looking wonderful in this neat uniform. I am so happy to see you  and was looking forward to meet you personally. So, Hashim! how is your life going on? How are your parents and your other family members? Hope they are all well. I was astonished to hear all this concern. My heart started pounding with happiness and all my fears have flown away. 

Well, Hashim, you are a one of the best student of my class, you will be a leader one day. What I want to guide you about is that keep practicing your sentence making skill so your comprehension and your writing power will improve more. I am sure one day you will be among the great writers of your time. 

I was so excited and happy to know all this and was running back towards the playground to share the breaking news with my friends. 

Teacher what a person? I was unable to comprehend in my small mind, but today when am really a leader of my organization can recall that experience. My teacher was indeed a personality a role model to follow, my friend in my time of stress and loneliness, my guide and my mentor throughout my life. 

We do need such teachers today, for our children. We can only have such teachers among us when we ourselves become role models for others to follow. Lets become good human beings first, than we are good parents, good citizens, good Muslims above all. 

Students of today are teachers of tomorrow, so take life seriously and keep on facilitating our youngsters towards the right way and guide them in making right choices, and stand up for the right cause. 

Two Educations

Life has always been a challenge for each individual provided he/she understand and realize the value of this challenge by every passing moment. Each single day in our life begins with new discoveries, experiences, problems, solutions and events which add to our life valuable new dimensions for further exploration. 

Since the creation of human being on the face of this earth education has been considered inevitable to build and transform human potential into beneficial creation. Fortunately, human society has gone through a giant leap through technology influx. Technology has almost minimized the distances and we are now residing in a global world operational through our finger tips. However, very unfortunately this contemporary global civilization has also become a source of tense, frustrated, devastated and trenchant for humanity as a whole. 

The significant question arises here, what is wrong? What went wrong and where? Well, if education is fundamental human right and readily available to most of the population through influx of technology etc than why our societies are in rage? Is something wrong with our education system? Is something missing in our education? Why, at the end of the day we are still unable to achieve through education the desired objectives? What education means actually?

Education is delivered primarily to fulfill the sole objective of transformation of human character into a balanced and civilized human being of society, who knows how to make living, and how to live? 

This addresses to the need of 'TWO EDUCATIONS', which is definitely somewhere missing in our homes the first learning place of a child, than our school curriculum, among teachers, educational leaders, and our parents. Each dimension mentioned here has a pivotal role in child development when he/she is passing through different phases of life cycle. 

Parents role doesn't end by giving birth to the child rather they need to monitor each activity of their son/daughter like where they are going? Who are his/her friends? What is he/she is doing with money? What is he/she watching on media etc? Sitting down and communicating with them, providing them a fair chance of speaking and ensuring them that you as a parent are always there for them. Together, if parents build a trust between themselves and show this to their children that they are united no matter how many differences you have will keep the family always intact. Remember, if children are not saying anything doesn't mean they don't know, actually they are watching you. Be a role model for your children to turn them into star kids of tomorrow. 

School curriculum and culture must provide healthy platform of learning, performance and opportunities to students where not only they enjoy their educational process but at the same time build confidence, self respect and self esteem. At the same time, each activity must be properly monitored and evaluated. 

Society in east and west differ to a great extent from each other. Family structure in east is still quite intact and both genders prefer to establish family system therefore rules must prevail to keep it unimpaired. While in west family system is almost crushed and single parent, or living without parents is no more strange. 

Children are created to be taught by adults, their mistakes need correction, they need guidance, their energies need to be channelized. Consequently, leading us to the divine guidance which is present in the form of religion. 

Religion without proclaiming it any name all hold its divine injunctions to transform human character. Making living and how to live? are best inculcated through religion provided we contemplate and learn lesson from our previous mistakes. 

Recently, the brutal killing of 20 innocent children and 6 adults belonging to the noble cause of education is an eye opener for all of us irrespective of our race, caste, creed, religion or geographical boundaries. We as parents, teachers, educationists and above all human beings at large must not ignore this activity which is conducted by a student himself, whose life and activities were certainly not monitored by his parents, friends, school and law enforcement agencies of USA. 

Subsequently, 'TWO EDUCATIONS' is the critical need of the hour in our societies. We must create platforms for counselling students, teachers, parents where these needs should be addressed and identified to provide remedial solutions.

 Education being the social science addresses our social, emotional, physical and spiritual paucity. Providing healthy social and cultural activities to educational stakeholders is definitely beneficial. Students must be taken out of their rooms and involve them in hands on activities of learning instead of confining them inside playing violent video games, watching wrestling, movies promoting violence and killing leading to frustration, depression and aggression. 

Opportunities of healthy growth and development is at our doorstep, its a matter of just exploring new options, new lifestyle, exercise, and communication with those whom we trust. Lets join hands together to fight against this violence among our youth. We being educationists are agents of change. 

Life is a Pattern

Life moves on in the form of patterns, and due to these patterns ups and downs occur in our life.

Usually, human beings keep on looking for perfect situations and lifestyles to achieve all the comforts in life, which can never be attained as this life is not made for perfection because we are not made for perfection rather we are created to make mistakes. 

Unfortunately, majority of the human beings don’t accept their mistakes and don’t learn a lesson from their mistakes. Most intelligent is the one who accepts his/her mistake as soon as possible and correct it and avoid repeating that mistake. 

If we have an issue in life and it persists with our life it means that it might remain part of our life and we try to accept to live with that weakness. If a person tries to reach out for perfection in life e.g. perfect life partner, perfect car, perfect house, perfect marriage, perfect living, perfect job, perfect business etc it’s never achievable because it doesn’t exist, it’s simply an illusion. 

Living and understanding these small weak areas in our life and trying to cope with them intelligently is the real essence of living a true life because all of us have those weaknesses and problems in our lives. This universe is created for this purpose that we have to keep our dependency on each other in order to let the system of this universe work successfully otherwise it’s just not possible.

Consequently, remaining content and satisfied with what we have and consider life a blessing is in itself a blessing for our hearts and mind. This brings us into the real practical world which has to be lived is no doubt treacherous in nature and demands extreme level of determination and commitment from each one of us. 

However, offering immense amount of opportunities to each individual to grow, develop and learn through diversifying experiences throughout life. Finally, the choice and decision lies very much with us how we take advantage of this greatest opportunity i.e. life itself. LIFE IS IN OUR OWN HANDS!