Sunday, July 7, 2019

Marriage: A Fortune in Disguise

           
Marriage has always been considered a sacred relationship of love and care among all cultures, religions, and societies since the creation of human beings on this planet. Although, marriages take place according to their culture, societal norms, traditions,  value system, faith and religious beliefs. Therefore, the procedures and laws of getting married vary a lot. 

The other most vital dimension worth mentioning here is that marriage pattern differs for those who are not living in their own culture or society, rather settled in different countries due to work or family responsibilities.

Tariq belongs to a decent and educated family. He is raised with good moral values. As soon as he has settled in his career he requested his parents to start looking for an appropriate life partner for him. His parents became happy, however they suggested Tariq to also start looking himself for a suitable match, according to his requirements. Hence, the search started.

                   Tariq and his family went to meet different girl families, but the results were unexpected, rather beyond imagination. Few girls proudly announced that they are have no idea about doing anything in the kitchen, nor interested in participating any household chores either considered as part of everyday life irrespective of genders. Some girls even refused to meet or show up, rest clearly indicated that they prefer career instead of getting married. Hence, all efforts went in vain, no success at all.

                     Tariq decided to expand his search and use social media sites too. Most of the social media sites turned out to be just as dating sites. Tariq was not interested in dating rather he was interested in marriage. However, he didn't lose hope, and relentlessly struggled.

                   
Marriage is considered vital relationship in life. Hence, choosing right life partner is certainly a challenge. Modern trends are substantially different. Both the genders are facing crucial problems finding the right life partner. Various marriage bureaus, matrimony sites and similar such avenues are open to look for partners, but still its a challenge. Online match making seems easier and convenient to some extent, but there are always chances of scam. Sometimes online match making sites have ended up candidates into dangerous situations as well as consequences. Therefore, online match making cannot be considered 100% reliable and trustworthy for this purpose.

Undoubtedly, relationship carries perplexity with it as always. Usually, candidates remain unsure about their partner, hence unable to develop and acquire mutual trust in their relationships. Therefore, lots of marriages end up in separation, and can even lead to divorce within no time.

                    Marital relationship means shared responsibility, mutual respect and understanding, mental compatibility and protecting each others integrity in difficult times. However, there is not much educational services available for both genders who are ready and willing to get married. Appropriate marriage & relationship counseling services is need of the hour to help, support and guide prospective husband and wife. Additionally, training of teenage boys and girls about the concept of marriage, about the responsibilities that come along with this particular relationship and also developing awareness about the gruesome consequences of dysfunctional marriages.

                         
Marriage means a sacred bond, a contract between husband and wife. Parental role is vital to guide and counsel their children about this sacred relationship, as well as educational institutions should also play their role in educating young generation about the role and importance of marriage in the life of a child and our next generations, because marriage forms the nucleus of human society and culture. Parents must become role models for their children and show a healthy marital relationship to their children, that could help build their children's trust for marriage. Problems should be discussed behind closed doors to avoid misconceptions and confusions in the mind of young children consequently breaking their trust.

                        A healthy and strong family is the backbone of every society, so its the responsibility of each one of us to build a healthy living society full of mutual trust and care for each other in and out of marriage.